Psst, ummm, just so you know…. I’m right here. You don’t need to yell.
If I’m standing less than 3 feet from you, why is it you feel the need to yell?
Granted, I might be slowly going deaf, but there is no need to scream to communicate. It will actually make me want to listen less.
When I was a kid, my brother and sisters were loud. And I guess with 4 siblings the main communication style will probably be LOUD for some reason. Everyone fighting to be heard. I love my siblings, just not the loudness. When I turned 18, I moved out shortly there after. To this day I tell everyone it was because everyone was so loud. Twenty eight years later, they still don’t believe me. LOL
Take a phone for example. Either a land line or cell will work. Last time I checked, your mouth goes where you talk and your ear where you hear. But have you noticed how some people answer their phone and go from a normal speaking voice to a yelling loud one? You’d think they were talking on tin cans for god’s sake.
I have young lady that works for me who when ever she is on the phone with her mother, she just starts yelling to be heard. I’m constantly telling her to stop screaming at her mother. To which she says…”I’m not yelling.” I think…I suppose you’re not if your goal was everyone to participate in the conversation.
But she fits the other group that yells / get loud. Why is it when family members talk to each other they feel the need to scream at each other to communicate? It’s not like they are even really mad at each other. My one nephew will scream the other one’s name for no reason at all. I’m always like..he is right there, why do you have to scream?
But there is a difference between being LOUD and screaming to be heard. Why do people insist on screaming to communicate? Do they not realize that it just makes the other person want to fight back more? That is turns on ones defenses? Trust me, if you start screaming at someone, they will want to scream back.
I think this is why I love my quiet time. I love when it is peaceful. Problem is, when people come around, it tends to get loud. Why is it when we are alone we wish others were there and when they are we want them to go away? Oh yea, cuz they are loud! LOL.
The sad thing is, most people aren’t angry or mad. They just think that the louder they get, the more likely they will be heard. It has become acceptable to just scream at other people to make them hear us. I hate to tell you, for me it just causes me to tune you out more. Yep, I’m more likely to ignore you if you are yelling at me. Even if you don’t mean it.
Maybe I’ve always had sensitive ears. LOL.
So do me a favor….I’m right here. No need to scream or yell. I promise, I’ll hear you.
Does this drive you nuts too?
~~~till we laugh again~~~